When I wrote an earlier piece on the issue of language used in gender inequality, my focus was on women, though I firmly believe men are victims too. There were many men who via responses or on a personal level, expressed vociferously that discrimination was not restricted to women alone. It differs from society to society and culture to culture but is prevalent at some level everywhere. One particular response summed up the tone of what many men felt. “ Why would men talk about it in public when nobody cares so they just suck it up..” Well, I care and I am listening.
Thank you, to the earlier responses, the man in my life and male friends for sharing the private angst of men. With no offence meant, just my observations, here goes…
A man who cries freely.
A woman who cries freely.
A man who is perceived as controlled by his wife.
A woman who is perceived as controlled by her husband.
Woman: The good wife
A man who protests in public if a woman made unwanted, sexual overtures or if he was subjected to domestic abuse.
Man: Laughing stock
A woman who protests in public if a man made unwanted, sexual overtures or if she was subjected to domestic abuse.
A stay-at-home father who does not make money.
A stay- at- home mother who does not make money.
Woman: Home maker
A young boy who does not retaliate with physical aggression on his aggressor.
A young girl who does not retaliate with physical aggression on her aggressor.
A male child who plays with dolls or wants to learn ballet.
A female child who plays with dolls or wants to learn ballet.
A man who cheats on a woman or dumps her.
A woman who cheats on a man or dumps him.
Woman: Man must have given her reason
A man who flirts with a younger woman.
A woman who flirts with a younger man.
A man who walks arm in arm with another man.
A woman who walks arm in arm with another woman.
A man who wears skirts.
Man: Cross Dresser
A woman who wears pants.
Woman: Regular wear
A man’s role is not just to provide, pay and work. All men are not flawed. All women are not perfect. Statistics will show that women face more gender inequality as a whole but that does not automatically mean men do not face any issues. In custody battles, alimony payments, criminal cases, reservations, life-risking professions, domestic abuse shelters, men face higher gender inequality. Men and women are born different. Let’s complement each other rather than misuse and exploit the weakness of the other sex. Let’s accept the differences to realise we are the perfectly matched pieces of this jigsaw of humanity.
For further perspective, please read “The Double Standards Dictionary” https://medium.com/the-coffeelicious/the-double-standards-dictionary-f643ee03439b?source=linkShare-a3b208be069b-1484946108
Alisha “Priti” Kirpalani is the author of “A Smattering Of Darkness: Short and Shorter Twisted Tales,” (available on Kindle Unlimited) a collection of short stories of varying lengths encapsulating the grey shades of the human psyche. Her new novel will be released later this year.